Why Russian girls want to leave Russia
We hear this question all the time, from our men visitors, "Why Russian girls want to leave Russia?" Another question is, "Why Russian girls want to marry European and American men?" or "Why Russian girls want to marry European, Canadian, Australian or in general foreign men", or "Why Russian girls want to marry Spanish men" etc.
Though those questions seem to be different, the answer to all of the them is just the same: well, they DON'T! What we mean is that Russian girls actually do not want to leave Russia and they do not want to marry Canadian, Mexican, Spanish, French, etc men.
You may ask us then why there are so many marriage ads of Russian girls seeking men abroad, on the Internet, seeking men in countries like Canada, USA, Australia and Europe - yes, this is right, but this doesn't mean Russian girls want to leave Russia or marry western men.
Russian girls want to marry honest men and have a normal family and children, and it's not always possible in Russia for all of them. There is huge demographic disproportion in Russia with only about 80 males for 100 female. It means 20% of females have no chance to find a husband or be married. This is the main reason.
Second reason is the well-publicized alcohol abuse in Russia by men, which results in poor health conditions and abusive behavior of men. It is a custom where men get together in groups after work and get drunk, then go home. The woman is supposed to look after kids and make a meal for the husband coming home from work (who often comes home drunk) and if a woman complains, it may end up in a verbal or physical abuse by the man.
The culture and demographics are hard to change; we are sure it will change with time, but this is also the reason why many women decided, after many years of trying to get married in Russia to family oriented men, to look for a relationship elsewhere.
Russian girls want to find a loyal man for marriage - this is the purpose, not leaving Russia or immigration. Leaving Russia will be very hard for her, losing her family and friends at once and moving into unknown country to start her life all over, but the cultural standard for a girl to have family (marriage and children) as her highest priority is so strong, some girls are brave enough to look into unknown and start looking for a partner abroad.
It is a circle:
- There are less males than females in Russia, and so some girls are destined to be single.
- In Russia, the cultural paradigm for a woman is to achieve happiness in her family, having a steady marriage and children - if she does have marriage and kids, a girl feels left out and unhappy; similar to how a western girl may feel if she never had a work, as if she is not worthy.
- Since marriage is such a high value for girls, men are in high demand. They get really spoiled by choice and beautiful girls trying to please them to either get married or keep the husband from wondering.
- Russian men get more and more arrogant with age and start following the cultural norm of hard drinking with their pals and getting home drunk and abusing a wife.
- Since this behavior is so ordinary, most girls stay in an abusive marriage as there is not much chance to re-marry for a divorced woman with children or if she is over 30. Most Russian girls get married before the age of 23; by 26 a girl is considered a spinster if she is not married.
In other words, fine men in Russia are rare - by a good man we mean a man who doesn't drink, doesn't sleep around, doesn't violence his wife and is able to hold a stable job and support his family. In the west, it's the norm and husbands who behave abusively would be immediately sorted out or left without a wife.
In Russia, men who drink, sleep around, beat up their wives (about 2,000 wives in Russia are killed every year by their husbands). Those men are a norm. Some of men are incapable to hold a job or support their families and the wife has to have a full-time job and then work the second shift doing all the domestic chores and looking after children.
Actually most girls would have never even considered leaving Russia to marry a foreigner if they could meet good men in Russia and get married to them and have happy families.
This is the fundamental difference between Russian girls and Asian girls, as Asian girls consider immigration as the means to support their families and provide for their parents and families, and we know husbands of Asian wives have to send money on monthly basis to support the wife's in Philippines, Thailand. Our opinion, this is the main reason why most Asian girls get married to American and Australian men.
This is totally different with Russian girls: they get married for themselves, for their own happiness and future for their children. Russian women get married to have a happy family for themselves, because this is their highest value: a Russian girl needs her own family, a husband and children, to feel happy.
Quotes from the web:
-Today, Russian girls don't marry just for money sake and I have known many instances wherein after divorce, they have not sought for alimony and able to earn a decent living based on their skills and not on charity of ex-husbands.
- It happens in all countries and Russia is no exception. Moreover, it is wrong to assume all beautiful Russian girls want foreign husband. Many have married within the country to Russian men and are happily settled. A few girls may marry outside but that is their choice and prerogative and none must have any objections. Moreover, such marriages may culturally improve ties between countries and over a period, there may be more harmony between countries than now.